Forthcoming on June 5, 2018 from HarperCollins.

Pre-order at Barnes and Noble or Amazon or IndieBound


“Reading Kelly Sundberg’s writing—fresh, luminous, spirited—is a pleasure second only to witnessing her decision to survive. Goodbye Sweet Girl is a meditation on what it takes to save your own life.”  (Ariel Levy, author of The Rules Do Not Apply)

 “It is a hell of a thing to write about brutality and suffering with strength, grace, generosity and beauty. That’s precisely what Kelly Sundberg has done in her gripping memoir about marriage and domestic violence. Sundberg’s honesty is astonishing, how she laid so much of herself bare, how she did not demonize a man who deserves to be demonized. Instead, she offers a portrait of a broken man and a broken marriage and an abiding love, what it took to set herself free from it all. In shimmering, open hearted prose, she shows that it took everything.”–Roxane Gay, author of Hunger and Bad Feminist

 Goodbye, Sweet Girl is a breathtaking gut-punch of a memoir. Real talk: the story is hard. We spend so much time pretending that domestic violence doesn’t exist. We spend so much time doubting women. Enough. Sundberg gives us the truth in all its complexity; fear and hope and fury in gorgeous, near-cinematic prose that made me weep, and cheer, and understand. Here is how we save ourselves. Here is how we survive.” (Megan Stielstra, author of The Wrong Way to Save Your Life)

“A fierce, frightening, soulful reckoning—Goodbye, Sweet Girl is an expertly rendered memoir that investigates why we stay in relationships that hurt us, and how we survive when we leave them. Kelly Sundberg is a force. She has written the rare book that has the power to change lives.”—Christa Parravani, author of Her: A Memoir

“A shattering of the silence that enables domestic violence to continue, Goodbye, Sweet Girl shines a fierce light on how complex and sometimes joyous a relationship that’s also an abusive cage can be, why women gradually lose the orientation they need to find the exit, and how they escape when they do, or how this one did. This book is a testament—and a warning to batterers that the silence is broken, and their secrets are leaking out.” (Rebecca Solnit)

“In her stunning memoir, Kelly Sundberg examines the heart-breaking bonds of love, detailing her near decade-long marriage’s slide into horrific abuse. Sundberg shares her own confusions, fears and empathy for her violent husband, even as she comes to realize he will never change. This is an immensely courageous story that will break your heart, leave you in tears, and, finally, offer hope and redemption. Brava, Kelly Sundberg.”—Rene Denfeld, author of The Child Finder

“With disorienting elegance Kelly Sundberg shows her readers how difficult it can be to believe even your own experiences of abuse when they begin in what seems to be a loving relationship, and unfold alongside depression and confusion arising as a result of that very abuse—and perhaps worst of all, when in the midst of such doubt, fear and sorrow, loved ones question your judgment. Kelly brings clear eyes, an open heart and the vulnerability that comes from long healing to a story of domestic grief and horrific abuse. The abuse that she long told herself, and others, was not really that bad.

The writing and juxtaposition of scenes are striking and terrible in their beauty—it’s no coincidence that her story begins among men and women who both depend utterly on the mountains and forests of Idaho, and who seem hell-bent on destroying them.

It is a powerful spirit indeed who not only navigated so many lonely and terrible days and nights, but who also escaped with grace, a beloved child, and the determination to share her story, difficult as that must have been.

This is an important book.”–Bonnie Nadzam, author of Lamb and Lions

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I am represented by Joy Tutela at David Black Agency.

I started this blog in 2012 as a response to my ex-husband’s arrest for domestic battery. His only sentence was to write me a court-mandated letter of apology. I started this blog as my way of saying “Apology Not Accepted.”

Thank you to everyone who has followed me on this journey.





4 thoughts on “THE BOOK

  1. drdiane

    Hi Kelly,
    We are fb friends but until today I hadn’t known about your work or your experiences … I too left an abusive marriage and have just finished writing my memoir and about to enter the publishing stage …
    so much of what you write in your blog I can relate to … it took me a long time to get to the point of realizing that I didn’t have to forgive in order to move on … for me accepting what happened and forgiving ae two different thing, my ex took no responsibility, there was no way I could forgive him but I have moved on ….
    I look forward to reading your memoir

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Angeline

    I’m sorry to bother you but I need to understand if I’m alone. I read about how you didn’t like the word your husband called you. When someone gets called something over and over, they think it must be true. But does that mean that they instantly take responsibility for it? I’ve been called evil, sadistic, and worthless so many times, I can’t tell what’s true and what isn’t. But right now I just want to know. If I’m called evil until I believe it, and then I see something like this, and I feel like it’s my fault and I feel ashamed, is that, for lack of a better term, normal? Because I see pain, and I want to cry, but the only thought running through my head, in an endless loop, is “it’s all my fault.”


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